What is Nine Crowns of Grace™?

Nine Crowns of Grace™ is a faith-based identity restoration ministry founded by Beverly Parraz. It offers Christian coaching, devotionals, a podcast, and free resources to help high performers step into their God-given identity and overcome parental absence wounds.

Who is Nine Crowns of Grace™ for?

Nine Crowns of Grace™ serves Bright Souls — high performers who are carrying identity wounds from parental absence or emotional neglect, and who are ready to step into their God-given identity and calling through faith in Christ.

What is a Bright Soul?

A Bright Soul is someone who shines outwardly — often a high performer — but carries identity wounds from parental absence or not being fully seen growing up. Nine Crowns of Grace™ exists to help Bright Souls discover who God made them to be and walk in that identity.

What is the free healing guide?

The free guide helps you identify which identity wound may be shaping your life today, and offers a faith-based starting point for your identity restoration journey with Nine Crowns of Grace™.

Does Beverly Parraz offer identity restoration coaching?

Yes. Beverly Parraz offers 1-on-1 coaching sessions and group coaching through the Bright Soul Coaching Circle, both focused on faith-based identity restoration, parental absence healing, and stepping into your God-given calling.

Yes. The Nine Crowns of Grace™ Podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Podbean. Episodes cover identity restoration, parental absence healing, faith, purpose, and stories from Bright Souls stepping into who God made them to be.

Are there devotionals about parental absence and identity restoration?

Yes. The Healing the Unseen Wounds devotional series on Nine Crowns of Grace™ covers eight types of emotionally absent parents — including physically absent parents, conflict-avoidant parents, perfectionist parents, and more — all through a faith-centered identity restoration lens.

The Day I Took Ownership of My Life

Taking ownership is not rebellion — it's restoration. It's the moment you stop waiting for someone else to change and start choosing the healing God has been offering you all along.

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." — Psalm 147:3

Personal Reflection

The day I took ownership of my life was the scariest day I've ever lived. I remember sending my father a message on Facebook, telling him we needed to talk. I chose the date and time — December 27th at 2pm — a moment that felt symbolic for both of us. My aunt had passed away the day before. His birthday was two days later. And the new year was only days away.

New Year. New Life.

I was determined to finally speak my truth.

My heart longed for one thing — to understand why he didn't like me. Why he pulled me close only to tear me apart again. Why he hurt me so intentionally, so repeatedly. And still… I loved him. But I also knew I had to tell him that his behavior was unacceptable.

When the day came, denial filled the conversation. Instead of clarity, I was left confused. Instead of connection, I felt dismissed. I remember thinking, How can a human being call this love?

Thirteen months later, he passed away. And even after all the hurt, I still felt the urge to fight for his love. But I knew I couldn't live like that anymore.

So I let go. I got therapy. I did the work. I healed. My love for him never faded — but I finally took ownership of my life. It was the day I said, "Enough is enough."

Crown Insight

Taking ownership is not rebellion — it's restoration.

It's the moment you stop waiting for someone else to change and start choosing the healing God has been offering you all along.

Therapy, coaching, and truth-telling are not signs of weakness. They are signs of courage.

God meets you in the moment you decide to stop surviving and start living.

Gentle Encouragement

Bright Soul, if you've been carrying the weight of someone else's wounds… breathe.

You are not responsible for another person's healing.

You are responsible for your own.

And God is faithful to walk with you every step of the way.

Journaling Prompts

Where in your life are you still waiting for someone to give you the love you deserved long ago?

What would "taking ownership" look like for you today?

Write a prayer asking God to help you release what was never yours to carry.

Closing

If this blessed you, share it with someone who needs courage today.

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